@ JaneQSmythe Oh I wasn't directing that at you at all. I've seen threads where people say they verbally fantasize about their other lovers with a partner, including talking about it in their blogs. I've seen a fair enough amount of it to imagine it's pretty common though.
There's nothing wrong with it, I tend to think sex is private, and I have gotten the impression that there might be a correlation between verbal fantasizing and people who are more of a voyeuristic/exhibitionist slant, or that's what I've gotten from their online persona at least.
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