No, I hear you. I'm not upset with her. She needs to be able to set boundaries for her relationships with others and go into things with eyes open wide, secure. I understand that. It may not work the way she seeks with us, but I do understand. I'm much the same. I might not demand as much, lol, but I'm sure to others, my demands are unreasonable
And you're right... much time can be wasted and tears spent trying to "make things work" that just won't.
Life is still beautiful.