I went and read a little in your other thread and got confused on a couple things. How did he become the one if the sex was terrible from day one ? You having a high sex drive and his is non existent. You date for 5 yrs that way and still decide to marry ...hoping it would change ? Now you think your poly .....maybe you just need a normal sex life....whatever normal is
. Look up the national average for you age and area.
Maybe that long drought and constant thought of what's missing is driving all this. Play me or trade me I'm sick of sitting on the bench. You 've been in this opening up process for almost a year and you're at handholding. Is it better to wade into very cold water or just jump. I vote jump. Sink or swim. live or die.
Do you have kids?