Yep, asked for no PIV sex for last night. They have never had independent sex to date, so it's a big step, and one that E. had even expressed some reservations about before leaving. It left tons of play on the table with the thing that was making me rear up like a nervous horse off the menu - win for all of us. He totally respected that - and no, they hadn't had sex already, they were out at a pub hanging out. E's txts were reassuring, loving and kind. I went to sleep feeling pretty peaceful and that's more than I had actually anticipated.
Will I keep need that boundary for the whole weekend? Bloody unlikely/unreasonable, but for last night it was more than I could handle, and I'm glad that I was able to txt with him a bit and come to a place of some peace.