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Old 05-31-2012, 12:17 PM
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Lying is quite often a major barrier to the trust that is required in order to have a good, happy relationship. It takes a lot of work on the part of the people that lied to try to mend that.

Have you talked about this with them? Talked about how, because of what happened, you are struggling to trust them? If so, what was their reaction?

Here is an article on the concept of an Emotional Bank Account which I have found very useful in understanding this sort of dynamic.

I think it might explain some of what you have been facing - maybe it can help you get a better handle on things to communicate your needs to your partners.

This stuff is very difficult, and requires real teamwork from all involved to make work again.

"Listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." - Native American Proverb
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