Yay, I'm confused
First ever post.
So, my wife of a long time came out that she's poly.
Cool, right? Envision all the great conversations, the fear, the jealousy. Even hot swinging topics, but of course with rules, and boundaries set. We're going to ease into this like a boiling hot tub. We like the concept, we just don't want to get burned.
Here I am trying to figure out how I feel about this; it turns out I'm a closet poly. I've just gotten so USED to mono. Yes, I've had yearnings, connections, too, I've had leanings, I just never knew how to verbalize it. I've been so mono, and hurt in mono relationships, that I've been conflicted about how this is going to turn out (projection, naturally). Working it out, I'm going to embrace this better.
Just how do you come to compersion? I'm finding I need to let go when she's out "messing around" or whatever is coming (none of it has "happened" yet).
Duh, but yeah, what do I need, a hobby?