Hi Trans. I just read your original post and you seem like you're writing my story. My husband is having the same issues, premature ejaculation and lack of giving oral stimulation to me. So our sex life is pretty crappy and ultra vanilla. Which I've been okay with for 12 years, but it's wearing me down. I think I was able to accept my current life because we had a child together and I put my needs on the back burner. I've suggested he go to the doctor many times, but he refuses. Unfortunately, my husband isn't accepting of my desire to pursue a poly life. I believe he just doesn't understand it. I want to mention this site to him, but he makes me feel like there is something wrong with me for feeling this way. He thinks I just want to go out and bang a bunch of guys.