Thanks for the answer!
Actually, your story was pretty helpful! Since we have been going in a sort of BDSM path lately I could totally e-mail them talking about these sort of things and including something about feelings in the middle. (If you donīt mind me coping you. rs).
Other thing your post made me realize is that... I think what I just need is to be able to express really. Because you see, the whole Social outings that don't involve sex and Hand holding stuff... we already do that.