Tammi, just to make sure you have your expectations aligned - polyamory is about relationships, not about "no strings attached" sexual fun. Have you tried placing personals on boards for swingers? I think that you will find a lot more candidates there.
I wish you luck in your search.
Please check out The Birdcage - an open, friendly Polyamory forum for all parts of New York State
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