Samines - Even if it doesn't work out with this particular couple (if they are "pulling back" because of some of the issues that have been brought up in this thread), you still have the benefit of having thought through and discussed this all here, it's not a complete loss, you have learned something about yourself and given some weighty issues a lot of consideration.
Best of luck!
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero, probably mono male, my live-in husband (together for 21 years, married for 17)
Dude: hetero, probably poly male, my live-in boyfriend (of 2 years; friends for longer) and MrS's best friend (for several years longer than that)
VV and MsJ: bisexual women with male primaries, LDR FWBs (of 19 and 7 years)
My poly blogs on this site:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe