I'd just appreciate someone being true to their primary emotion. The feelings they have a majority of the time when it comes to me. If they feel mostly torn and unable to commit, they need to just go with that and tell me about it so I know what to do from there. If they feel head over heels for me, then go with that emotion so I know what to do from there. I try to be entirely honest with myself and with the people involved. I expect the honesty to go both ways.
Me: 32, bi, female, married 14 years to R.
R: 33, hetero male who is polyfriendly, NSA friendly under the right circumstances.
S: The child R and I have together.
Neither have found the partner(s) we would like to merge villages with. In the meantime we are exploring our collective sexuality to find a frequency that feels right.