Swinging to poly changed my mind
Okay, I am new here and I guess I need some advice or something. My husband of 6 years and I have always been open sexually. We have met other couples for swinging, even had some short term friendships with people. It was fun sometimes and I had no problem with it. About 18 months ago, my husband decided that he really didn't want to do it anymore, and I was fine with that too, as I was tired of the superficial relationships we were having. Well then about 6 months ago, he decided that he wanted to do it again, but I didn't. With us, it had reached a point that we might would have sex every six weeks, but I felt there was so much more to our relationship than just sex.
When he brought up swinging and I told him I wasn't interested in it anymore, he was upset about it. I told him go have fun with whoever he wanted.
Now comes the problem: about 3 months ago, he met a very sweet woman who is 20 years younger than him. I liked her a lot and at first didn't mind him playing with her. I thought it would fizzle out. But it hasn't. In fact it has gotten to the point where he talks about her all the time, talks or texts her, compares her to me telling me she does this better than me, or something like that. About 4 weeks ago he told me that I needed to set up a room because he wanted her to move in.
It upset me very much. I told him how much, and he got angry. He throws at me how it is ok for me to have boyfriends but not for him to have this other woman. He set me up with two different men, neither of whom I wanted and both of them talked about how much they wanted hubby's girlfriend.
My husband says that I had talked about a poly vs swinging relationships when we first got together and I have no right to change the rules. Then he told me I can accept his girlfriend or I can leave.
So I am thinking of leaving, because I can't handle his relationship with her.but it is breaking my heart to leave.