Originally Posted by redpepper
Getting away with deceiving a partner is in that list of addictions I think.
I disagree with this very strongly, and I say that as someone who has cheated.
I am not trying to defend cheating here, just to say that "getting away with deception" is not necessarily a motivating factor or a thrill.
At the time I cheated I'd never even heard of polyamory, wasn't aware of it as an option.
It is definitely possible to have cheating be a step on the path that you have no desire to return to.