There is still an air of arrogance surrounding your intentions, whether the sex happens right away or down the road. The fact remains that your husband has an ulterior motive in helping her, which involves sticking his dick in her.
At least have the guts to be honest and tell it like it is. Instead of saying he wants to rescue and protect her, admit that he wants to seduce her.
Furthermore, when someone is in the midst of a difficult relationship or recovering from a break-up, either of which is where she would be, it is not a good time to enter into their first poly arrangement. I really think you two need to back way off from doting on her and trying to turn her heartbreak into a relationship with you.
Last edited by nycindie; 05-23-2012 at 02:23 AM.