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Old 05-22-2012, 10:51 PM
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She's a grown woman; grown women do not need to be taken care of. That is the first part of why it is creepy.

Why do you and your husband think he knows what is better for her? Doesn't she have family or other friends? If she is in a difficult relationship, she can deal with it herself. She is an individual and makes her own choices. You say it isn't abusive, which is good, and would be a case for helping her by finding resources or taking her to some sort of shelter. She can leave her bf and stay with friends who have no intention of fucking her.

Bringing her into your home and having sex with her is not "taking care of someone." I question his love for her. It just sounds like lust and a need to be in control.
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