Oh. My. God. Are you for real?
This idea your husband has of "protecting" her by bringing her home to fuck her and show her what a good relationship is like, is so offensive, so utterly outlandish, and so NOT polyamory, I can't even begin to explain why. I have a hard time believing that your only issue with this is the possibility that she might get pregnant. It boggles my mind that there are people in the world that actually, seriously think like this.
If she is in danger, there are agencies and halfway houses where she can find shelter. If she needs to learn about relationships, she can do it by living her own life and being in relationships. Certainly, your husband does not need to protect her by brandishing his cock like a sword. Geez, I just... can't believe... I'm nauseous now.
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
Last edited by nycindie; 05-22-2012 at 06:26 AM.