Hi there welcome to our community.
What has worked best for my wife and I is 100% honesty and trust. It couldn't work any other way for us. I hope y'all can find what it is ur looking for here. Good luck on ur first date.
"If u always put limits on every thing u do, physical or any thing else, it will spread into ur work and into ur life. There r no limits there r only plateaus, and you must not stay there you must go beyond them."