Originally Posted by nycindie
You are asking people to share what their rules are for open relationships. What I've seen with most poly people, I believe, is having boundaries that are negotiated rather than hard rules.
I think i must have read about 20 sites on boundaries, and 75% of the ones that I mention in my post are ones pretty much everyone has. Some of the others are surrounding the fact that most of what i read about open relationships is that I should KNOW the other person, while she is secretive about who this person is and what is going on and not telling them she is in a serious relationship.
As far as opening a new thread for advice, every relationship is unique so I wanted to be able to communicate what "her" idea of open relationship is, in that its friends with benefits vs something more complicated like swingers or other poly activities.