I think if I were in your situation, and know what I know now as a woman in her 40's, I would go to the husband and spend some time with him. Get to know him and see where he is at. Nothing like metamour love to know where you are at and what is REALLY going on. Chances are she will not leave her marriage for you. You are just a nice treat. Of course stranger things have happened, but I am telling you, a hot young dude takes time off for you where the responsible husband does not and it seems like love. The husband is just as caring, just not as available. It just SEEMS like more. I would take what she says with a grain of salt on that one. All this doesn't mean you have no value, just that you have a place and that you just need to figure out what that is and where you stand. What your role is.
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