Thread: Is it worth it?
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Old 05-19-2012, 08:26 PM
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Moving someone in that you have only known from a distance has proven to be disastrous for most people I have talked to. Especially where poly relationships are involved and even more so if one person is mono and not experienced poly yet and even MORE so if they are possessive. To me that is a huge red flag. No matter where you go with other relationships I would suggest him visiting several times and then maybe moving near you getting a job and his own friends and then seeing how things progress. You might want to hold off on other relationships for some time if you go this direction. Otherwise I think I would work on other relationships and deal with his reaction while he is far away. He will likely need some time to get used to your relationship nature.

I would suggest doing a search in the tags here for "moving in" to see how other people have handled their relationships around moving someone from a long distance.
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