I'm a little late to the table here, but I still wanted to welcome you to our forum.
I think you are still doing some introspection, trying to find out what it is you are looking for. Polyamory.com is a good place for you to be because you can do so much reading here (and posting any questions you may have). It will help you get things figured out.
Polyamory is unfortunately not always met with understanding by the family/friends you try to come out to. FWIW, I'd say that no, being poly doesn't make you a "whore." People just aren't raised/taught to understand non-monogamy. They're taught to fear it.
Hopefully you can find a little of what you're looking for on our site.
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