First, I want to say thank you Phy, I am trying. I still have all the emotions, good and bad, that come with just being me, but I truly do want my husband to be happy. It isn't about putting my needs second, either. A lot of different thoughts and emotions went into my decision to agree to my husband and his girlfriend continuing their relationship with me still being his wife.
I also want to say thank you to you too Cleo. Your advice is good and I will definitely find something to focus on for myself. My life has changed a LOT in the past month, with my husband's new relationship being only one of many major changes. I do need to find something new to spend my time on. I have a few ideas, but so far have not pursued any.