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Old 05-19-2012, 05:43 AM
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Hello everyone,

I am a 44 year old female and have been married for ten years. My husband is 53 and we recently changed our marriage to an open relationship status. This was my suggestion. In the past, he has strayed a few times. He never lied and I was always able to deal with it. About six weeks ago, he started to seem restless again so I talked to him about it. After a couple of days, I suggested that we just change the relationship to an open marriage. I knew that one or both of us might become emotionally attached to someone else. I also talked to him about the possibility. I'm not sure he really heard me. At any rate, he did become attached to one of the girls he started seeing. And she has developed strong feelings for him as well. I was gone for about a week taking care of some family issues, and they had a bit of a honeymoon period. I dealt with my own emotional yo-yo-ing, and am trying to figure out how we are going to work this out. I do not want to keep them from having a relationship. It isn't the most thrilling thing in the world for me, but I am secure in the relationship I have with my husband and I want to do everything I can to keep anyone from getting hurt. This is my first time at the rodeo, so to speak, but I have already talked with his girlfriend on the phone and expressed a desire to have a face to face sit down talk, so we can come to some kind of arrangement.

I think that if we all sit down as adults and figure out what everyone wants and expects from this relationship, we can make it work. However, if anyone wants to give me a few tips on how to work it out, I sure would appreciate it.

I don't know what the terms of the types of relationships are. However, I am a bi female, he is bi curious and she is bi curious. I have currently put any dates I may have set up for the near future on hold so I can focus on this. I fully intend to continue to meet and date other people though, at least occasionally. I do not have any strong emotional attachments to anyone else at this time.

Anything else I haven't said, please feel free to ask me.

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