I totally agree. I admit I entered this blindly with what I thought poly was, he entered based on what she had suggested to him. Things have gotten out of control in our relationship. I am waiting for him to get home so we can get back on track as trying to talk on the phone with him at her place is not productive. I feel she is definitely a cowgirl (I am just learning about this term) and hopefully when he is away from her and takes a review of the past few days he will see just how she played us both against each other.
We have had problems in the past and I honestly thought things were going so much better, so did our friends and family. Many times in the past few months many people had commented that they had never seen us so happy and relaxed, so when I started to suspect the affair I think I talked myself into thinking I was wrong.