Hi mialush. It's heartening that you have both reached this decision. You say that you have reached a standstill - in what way? Are you struggling to meet other poly folk that you might feel a bond with, are you struggling with jealousy, are you struggling with how to do it so that everyone gets what they need?
Those are all very different issues, with different solutions and advise. If you can talk a little more about your situation, maybe the folks here can help you more...
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