Just as a point of information, the book in question wasn't The Ethical Slut, it was Love Without Limits. Mono recommended it, SeventhCrow disagreed with the recommendation because of it's overly new aged flavor. Mono replied with:
Your comments are echoed to me by many poly people I know Seventh Crow. Fasciniating how a mono mind can look at the same words differently.
This is the statement I took issue with and where the debate began.