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Old 05-15-2012, 07:24 AM
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Default Hinge work

There are a lot of resources about how to manage jealousy or other stuff related to your partner having another love. I think the position of, say, a leg in a V (meaning you have one partner who has another partner) is considered to be more difficult to adjust to in our monogamous culture. Which may well be true, on average. But I do think there's quite important adjusting needed of the hinge, i.e. person with two (or more) partners. I can think of a few things that seem to feature in people's experiences.


Guilt.

Time management.

Energy management.

Balancing commitments.

Being considerate.

Taking care of own needs.

NRE.


There are probably other things that I didn't think of. Please, feel free to add as you think of any. And please share your experiences about what you have found important/influential.
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