I really do appreciate the grey areas that folks are identifying. I agree that folks need a place to discuss all aspects of relationships, and that includes sexual.
But is anybody suggesting that a post like "We have been monogamous all our lives. My boyfriend and I really want to have a threesome with another female. We have both agreed that neither of us will develop anything beyond the sexual stuff with her. how do we go about finding a suitable person?"
Now, I know this is an extreme case, and as some have said, for some having a sexual relationship usually means that feelings develop beyond that. But would most of us agree that this isn't poly? or am I off base?
If it's NOT poly, then where is the line?
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