Glad I can help a bit... what most do is put in their ad a list of demands, without really talking at all about what they have to offer. The more you can talk about that sort of thing, the more chance you have of interesting someone.
There are lots of couples looking for a single woman, and many are disappointed because they don't do anything to stand out from the crowds of people who are also looking.
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