Originally Posted by nycindie
Omigosh! Could he... you don't think... maybe he's... becoming poly??!!??!!
Well he definitely is getting that he can have an emotional connection to other women besides me. Other people in general. He has been spending time with his ex wife and a friend at work and cares about both of them. Even loves them. Beyond that I don't think he's given up his Mono status, just his description of what it means to be mono to him. What it means to be in a relationship.
Relationships can be committed on different levels and he gets that more now. Things aren't as black and white as he thought they are or should be. Love is expansive if its allowed to grow. Once he allowed that in his life, it grew. I think we are over the healing process he needed to go through and into a new and improved relationship of deep commitment to what we have. Commitment to our relationship. Now there is room to spread out with confidence and security in that commitment. Its a good day.