Originally Posted by yakchef
I've been to tons of CBT and DBT type of therapy in the past
What are CBT & DBT?
Anyway, my general response to your post is this.: If you're feeling neglected by her in some way, as in how much time she spends with you as compared with the other, just tell her so. Talk about that with her. If she doesn't care about your needs and wants then something ain't right.