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Old 05-11-2012, 02:24 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Pennsyl-tucky
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For me what my family and society define as "cheating" is much less important than how we define it for ourselves. For me "cheating" is defined by dishonesty and bad faith. Polyamory is one way that people have found to practice "ethical non-monogamy" (swinging is another) i.e. being with another without cheating **as defined by the boundaries of their relationship(s)**. Those boundaries may be different for different people/couples/configurations. Oftentimes (in my observations) it is mis-understandings about those boundaries that causes conflict in (even monogamous) relationships.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (together 21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ

My poly blogs on this site:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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