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Old 05-11-2012, 02:24 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Pennsyl-tucky
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For me what my family and society define as "cheating" is much less important than how we define it for ourselves. For me "cheating" is defined by dishonesty and bad faith. Polyamory is one way that people have found to practice "ethical non-monogamy" (swinging is another) i.e. being with another without cheating **as defined by the boundaries of their relationship(s)**. Those boundaries may be different for different people/couples/configurations. Oftentimes (in my observations) it is mis-understandings about those boundaries that causes conflict in (even monogamous) relationships.

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, FWBs to SLeW
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe
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