I think a search on "boundaries" might be helpful too.
I would suggest asking her for reassurance. She likely isn't trying to replace you. Also all relationships could possibly end. Poly ones have a better chance of staying together actually.
Do some reading here. You are asking stuff that has been asked many times before. It might help you realize that you are not alone and its all doable.
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