There are many many threads on this topic if you do a tag search for "mono/poly." We have been pretty heavy with monogamists looking for answers over the years and I'm sure you will find a wealth of knowledge and stories to read. There is no quick answer to your question but with time and understanding that love can be abundant and expansive, you might just get there. Good luck. Look for threads by MonoVCPG and Sage.
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