Originally Posted by Tonberry
Only a bully needs to hurt others to feel validated. If he has issues where he feels out of control or trapped or whatever, he needs to address them with you, not punish you.
This deserves some serious emphasis.
He sounds very immature, and possibly not capable of handling a serious relationship at this time in his life.
You don't deserve to be lied to, or to have fights picked with you, just to make him feel better about himself. That's not love, that's bullying.