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Old 05-08-2012, 11:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Nudger View Post
I think that she just needs to work through her feelings, and understand that she loses nothing by allowing me to have gf.
Well, in reality, she's not "allowing you" to have a girlfriend. You're both adults and make your own choices. You chose to have a girlfriend (ultimately that is true, even if you moved forward in small increments to get there), and your wife chose to stay with you. She could have chosen to leave. "Allowing" and "giving permission" sounds like a parent, not a spouse. You two are basically working out how to live with the choices each of you made. Maybe if she starts to think of it that way instead of looking at it as if she now has to put up with what she "allowed," it will feel more empowering for her.
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