Originally Posted by FigNewtonian
The idea that I can have intimate emotional and physical relationships with multiple people and yet would not be comfortable with those people having intimate emotional and physical relationships with other people is something that's real and deep rooted. I'm just not.
Hmmmm, this could become a real issue. I think this would be a really good thing to work on. Check out threads on One Penis Policies (OPP) and see what others have said. You can do a tag search for that.
Generally it just doesn't work for the long run to expect that those you are dating stay monogamous to you. You can't really expect that. Sure, they might want to do that, and be happy to, but the imbalance of them knowing that you would object seeps in with time for most and relationships with imbalances such as an OPP are not healthy ones in my opinion. It might be time to face why you feel the way you do.