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Old 05-05-2012, 04:02 AM
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FWIW, what sealed "being poly" for me wasn't my wanting to have other partners.

It was the total disconnect between the norm (a couple is inviolable) and what made sense to me (...but I would totally not get in the way! Just be extra! And cute! You could both love me if you wanted!).

That's not to say monogamy ever worked well for me as a lovestyle, or that I knew how to choose well. But I couldn't have figured this out if I hadn't also known that I'd be fine sharing a lover, not just being shared.
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