Hello Trisha and Eric,
Welcome to our forum.
It sounds like you guys have had quite a journey to get to where you are today. I have always felt very emotionally-connected about sex (and value emotional connections in general), so I can relate to you about that. Hopefully on this site you can find a lot of like-minded people to converse with and exchange thoughts/ideas. Let us know if you have any questions.
I'm glad you're here.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"