Originally Posted by km34
If you or your husband has used the word "poly" vs. "swinging" or fwb then he may have a different idea of what the situation is than what you are actually wanting.
See, that's one of the things I need help with. He's always said poly. From what I've read and the little bits of conversation I've had with others, it seems he doesn't get the poly vs. swinging vs. fwb (and maybe this guy is fwb, but I have to figure that out). *I* think that he wants something, and puts it into the "poly" box, and maybe it doesn't fit there.
I'm going to my friend's house tonight, and she's one of the few people I know who are truly poly, so I'm going to talk to her about this. But there are very few people I could bring this up to, so I wanted to ask people who knew.
I am trying to figure out exactly what I want, and I'm not good with exploring my feelings. I just don't want to hurt anybody along the way.