Jade - I'll be the first to admit that I don't always make the wisest decisions. Thankfully, my hubby understands me and allows me to be honest woth him even when I make a bad judgement. :-)
I will admit that we played with fire. My disappointment was in D's assurance that we would never cross the line and then I had to be the adult. I'm still friends with D, and we have discussed this. D is disappointed that I wont hang out with him when his wife is gone, but je understands that I need that security right now
As for the others I've met, I am holding my line of not being "the mistress". I have permission nd dont have to hide, if nothing else I owe it to myself to have an open relationship amd not hide and participate in the lie others are choosing.
For me, its the right decision. I appreciate knowing I'm not the only one as it means that I have folks whonwill understand me