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Old 05-03-2012, 06:40 PM
moonglow82 moonglow82 is offline
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Default Greetings & Guidance Appreciated

Greetings all!

I'm going by Moonglow Gal. I'm 29 and live on the coast of beautiful central California. I'm a teacher, artist and doula. My husband is 28 and is a musician. We are family planning in hopes of getting pregnant in the next year or so.

I am new to this forum and new to the idea of open relationships in general. I've decided to share about myself and my relationship in hopes that I may receive some support, guidance, and perhaps a new way at looking at myself, my beliefs, my marriage, etc. Your compassion and kind words are greatly appreciated in advance!

We have been together in a monogamous relationship for 11 years and have been married for almost 3 years. We both agree that we are happy. We both enjoy our monogamous marriage, but it seems like we have an annual discussion around what it would be like to have an open marriage (always brought up by my husband).

Our latest discussion came up last weekend and now I'm wondering if this is something I need to seriously look at. I find myself being a little curious about what it would be like to have a second lover, perhaps committed partner for myself. But when I think of my husband having a second lover, perhaps committed partner, so much stuff comes up for me (fear of abandonment, envy, jealousy, fear, insecurity). My husband is sweet and considerate about it, saying that if I'm uncomfortable at all or not ready to think about it, he's happy to stay monogamous, no pressure. But then there's a part of me that wants him to be happy and wants to give him what he wants... whatever that is. He's not sure if he just wants more closeness in his friendships with women, a lover, or a committed partner. He has stated that it would be fun to find someone who was into both of us for a threesome...

I'm not sure what I'm asking of you, fellow forum reader. I've been looking around this site, trying to find something to help me figure out how I feel about all this. The only thing I know for sure is that it feels like a lot for me to consider with an open mind and open heart.

I appreciate your feedback, thoughts, advice, personal stories, etc. Thank you for reading and welcoming me to this forum!
~*Moonglow Gal*~
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