Have you discussed with Peter why emotional monogamy is so important to him in your relationship?
On the other hand, unless you're hiding something from Peter that isn't obvious from what you're written, it seems like your situation is pretty good. Maybe words like "poly" are getting in the way of negotiating things with Peter. You could try having a conversation with him about what you want your relationships to be like without using such labels.
What does Alan say about the situation?
Last edited by drtalon; 05-03-2012 at 01:18 AM.