Hi and welcome.
From your history are you saying he's ok with sharing you sexually with the his friend in a dating context?....but not in an emotional, romantic way. Or not at all.
Was he unaware of the text traffic and deepening emotional connection?
I sorta get the not wanting to share mentality ...I don't share cars ...a have a few ...my house(except with my kids) ...clothes ...my neighbor one time wanted to go in on a snowblower...I opted to spend the $900 some odd dollars and let him use it if and when he needed....just thought it wouldn't be worth it. So if I'm a good partner and devote my time and energy to my partner why shouldn't I expect the same? Knowing what he brings to the table
maybe he feels like he doesn't have except less than 100%.
I'd start with the poly book list. Read up...learn all the different arguments and the counter arguments.
Encourage him to read your thread and all the responses.
Check and see if a poly friendly counselor could help get your point across.
Good luck to you both
Last edited by dingedheart; 05-03-2012 at 01:13 AM.