Well, in very general terms, it sounds like things have improved between you guys just a little. Every little bit helps.
I can kind of see how things developed, and how you guys got to the point where you are today. Sure therapy would be nice, but if you keep practicing at communicating with each other, you'll probably get better at it. Perhaps some self-help books (such as books about communication) would be helpful? Just a thought; it might be like an "alternative to therapy" that she might be able to "choke down."
Regardless, I'm glad that you guys are gradually working things out.
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