E. Sync and I all have total transparency - yes, she is very aware and supportive of all of us having open communication. In her chats to E. she speaks to me directly at times, including the aforementioned value judgements in which she refers to me directly. It's an easy way for all of us to stay on the same page.
NYCyndie - I know that you're relatively new to poly, and have a tendency to be very enthusiastic about posting. Keep in mind that even though our relationship structure doesn't work for you, it does work for us. I would argue that age has nothing to do with knowing what works, or does not work for each individual, or dyad, or triad, or quad. You have a tendency to come off as a somewhat rigid and unforgiving person; might be something to think about. We're all living our own realities in our own relationships, and I think it's important to respect each other in the way that we speak to each other. "In My Power" refers to E. and I being in a peaceful place again, and me feeling re-centred inside of myself because my home life isn't out of whack - it has nothing to do with having power over/inside of anyone except myself.
Arrowbound - For us, I think it's just another measure of extending our love/trust to each other. We both have had long chats about it, and feel a great deal of happiness/security in having transparency. As our relationship grows, this may not be important, but for now it certainly goes a long way in creating a really solid basis of trust.
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