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Old 04-30-2012, 05:42 PM
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Well, you've been honest from the start, but I wouldn't exactly "push" him. I think you just need to gently nudge him... and keep talking.

I would ask him what he is afraid of and do you best to answer those fears. Usually people think that loving someone else will take love away from them. Make sure hubs knows that your feelings for him haven't changed. I think it would also be a good idea to bring up love as limitless and the opposite of possessing or laying claim to someone or just certain aspects of them. I agree that it would be great to read some poly material together. You can also ask him to come here and post his concerns.
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