You're not wrong to ask for what you want, even if it's hard for your partner to hear. There's no way to predict where it will go from here. You've done everything right by being honest and talking to him before pursuing a relationship. And while anger is a common reaction, not only had you talked to him about this previously, but surely he must be aware that sex can be a bonding experience and that feelings are always a possibility? But that's beside the point really, the question now is what comes next. It's great that he's willing to meet your friend. Maybe he'll get used to the idea. Maybe he'll just get more opposed to it. Taking things slow, being direct but not demanding, giving him time, and doing reading together may help. www.morethantwo.com
has some great essays.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.