Originally Posted by mostlyclueless
No problem. We do live together, in a big house with great housemates.
Thanks for answering. I hope I`m not crass in saying that your situation is instructive to me, since poly is basically an abstraction to me. I`ve had concurrent casual partners, but in the one situation in which I was actually in love with two partners they did not give me consent.
It`s one thing to say that, in theory, a couple can have other partners, etc. But, reality is probably more disjointed.
And, taking into account the fact that, at different periods in a relationship, there may be a differential in the level of infatuation, as well as the possibility that one of the partners may find secondaries sooner than the other (as in your case), it makes me wonder what I would do.
I wish you luck.