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Old 04-30-2012, 12:54 AM
feelyunicorn feelyunicorn is offline
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Originally Posted by mostlyclueless View Post
He believes that if a relationship is going to be poly, it should be poly from the beginning -- transitioning from mono to poly is too hard.
This is something I wonder about. A casual couple months in this forum and looking up other poly resources makes me think that most polys started out as mono marriages.

I might be wrong, and it would be nice if others chimed in.

In the open relationships I`ve had, though not nominally poly, I started out de facto mono, although de jure open, if that makes any sense. In other words, I've let them know from the start that I am not monogamous, but felt no desire to be with anyone else during the initial stages of the relationship.

Knowing myself, and depending on the relationship, I usually begin wishing for new partners around the 3rd month. It is definitely contingent upon how infatuated I am, etc. But, I think I`ve only had a serious level of reciprocal infatuation with someone about twice.

How long have you been together?
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Last edited by feelyunicorn; 04-30-2012 at 01:00 AM.
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